If you’re anything like me you probably don’t associate anything positive with the word “porn”, and rightfully so when you consider how detrimental this industry is for individuals, families and our society at large (and that’s putting it lightly). But after searching up the definition of pornography, my lens started to expand beyond the dark side of this world.  

According to the Oxford dictionary pornography is “printed or visual material containing the explicit description or display of sexual organs or activity intended to stimulate sexual excitement”. This means that erotic literature, sexting and those selfies you send to your lover in the hope to turn him (or her) on are all classified as porn, which probably also means that you’ve been engaging in porn and you didn’t’ even know it. 

The point of sharing this definition with you is to highlight the fact that there is nothing wrong with porn. The thing that needs overhauling is the industry and the culture which is why I’m happy to share three awesome alternatives that are all sex-positive, empowering, erotic and oozing high vibrations.

1. XCONFESSIONS

“This is the avant garde of erotica.”

This has got to be one of the hottest concepts I’ve ever come across. It’s intelligent, artistic, erotic AND sex positive all thanks to film-maker and feminist Erika Lust.

XConfessions is a website where you can watch erotic short films that are based on the anonymous confessions submitted to the site by fans and followers. These submissions are published every day for you to read. Meanwhile, two of these submissions are chosen every month and turned into an erotic short film made by Erika.

To keep things original and exciting you’ll see a variety of situations, characters, fetishes and ways of having sex. Plus, you’ll never see the same story twice.

2. MAKELOVENOTPORN.TV

 “Pro-sex. Pro-porn. Pro knowing the difference.”

If you believe that everyday sex is the hottest sex there is then MakeLoveNotPorn.tv is for you. There are no performances here and no “amateurs”. Just real people, like you and me, having real sex for your viewing pleasure.

This particular #realworldsex movement is led by Cindy Gallop, a badass woman on a mission to change the world one daring project after another.

3. BEAUTIFUL AGONY

According to the site, ” Beautiful Agony began as a multimedia experiment, to test a hypothesis that eroticism in human imagery rests not in naked flesh and sexual illustration, but engagement with the face. We wondered whether film of a genuine, unscripted, natural orgasm – showing only the face – could succeed where the most visceral mainstream pornography fails, and that is, to actually turn us on.”

I have no idea who is behind this platform (which is something I always like to know) but nonetheless, this is a website dedicated to real people, real masturbation and real orgasms. It stands for sex positive, empowerment, diversity and celebration. I guess that’s why it’s been named as “the sexiest website you’ll ever see.”

Big Love,