Using Kinky Sex for Shadow Integration.

“Sex, in general, is such a potent area for doing shadow work because, potentially for many of us, it’s so loaded with shame, fear, frustration, desire, hope.” ~ Justice Schanfarber

One of the first things I’m usually asked when it comes to LOVE SEX DESIRE is, “Do you have any books on [insert specific subject] you can recommend for me?”.

I think reading books is a great starting place when wanting to dig deeper into the area’s you’re most curious about.

So for those of you interested or curious about Kink and BDSM, I highly recommend an e-book called Conscious Kink for couples: the beginners guide to using kinky sex and BDSM for pleasure, growth, intimacy, and healing.

It’s written by today’s guest, Justice Schanfarber, a certified Hakomi Therapist and couples counsellor specialising in sex and relationships. His writings have been published by The Huffington Post and The Good Men Project, and read by over ten million people in two hundred countries, and has been translated into six languages.

In this episode, we explore:

the inspiration behind Justice writing “Conscious Kink for Couples”
how to use kink for shadow integration
3 lessons we can all learn from conscious kinky couples
Ritual sex vs spontaneous sex vs maintenance sex
3 important things to consider when exploring S&M or D&S dynamics
what Erotic humiliation entails
how to navigate the psychological challenges of stepping into a D&S relationship
how to tolerate the tension of having multiple, and sometimes contradictory, self-identities, desires, callings, and parts.
Justice’s highly recommended Kink & BDSM resources
the value of making distinctions between sex, intimacy, and eroticism…and so much more!